Whoa just when did it get so minimalist up in here?!
I've always considered my self more of a short skirt gal, but lately I've been liking the midi look. There's nothin wrong with showing off your legs, but there's nothing wrong with covering them up either!
You. Do. You.
It got real warm here in SC all of the sudden... and I'm not complaining. Suddenly I can bare my unshaven legs for the whole world to see! I love it. I missed the warm weather, and even though we'll probably have another cold snap soon, I'm kinda crossing my fingers that we don't.
In other news, school is a bitch, my hair is a rainbow, and I'm counting down the days until my life changes.
I don't know if I've made this clear on the blog, but I've had a drink on an empty stomach and I'm ready to admit to the internet that I am damn terrified of graduation... I've been a student for 16 years now and I'm real good at it. Come May I'm going to have to be an adult and I'm just praying the universe throws me a bone. Like, how do you even go about getting freelance work?
Do you ever just look at everyone on your facebook and wonder how you've changed so much and it seems like they're all part of someone else's life? I can't even believe that there are people out there that don't identify as feminist. Like, how did I get here?
Shirt: Dapper Ink
Skirt, Shoes: Thrifted
Necklace: Forever 21
Bee Pins: Vintage in Color on Etsy
I'm sure the next time I post my words will make more sense. In the mean time, tell me about your transition from school to the "real world."
Well...I don't identify as feminist. The term can mean so many (often contradictory) things, to the point where I find that it's not a useful label anymore. You could go by the dictionary definition of equality for all people, but in practice it's a lot more complicated than that. If I call myself a feminist, and so does the woman next to me, we could be subscribing to completely different philosophies. I prefer to state my beliefs individually and work from there to make sure I'm being as clear as possible.
ReplyDeleteAs for transitioning from school to the real world - I might not have the best advice, seeing as I didn't finish college. I just sorta started...doing things. I knew I wanted out of the school system, so I negotiated my part-time job up to full time and started submitting my work to literary magazines. There was no fear for me, though, because I was leaving school deliberately as opposed to it being the natural next time. All in all, I guess my advice would be "just start *doing*". Fake it until you make it. Submit everywhere you can. And don't be afraid to take a shitty day job.
In reference to it referring to many schools of thought, I feel ya. Some people call themselves "feminist" and are transphobic or racist, and I don't think I agree with a lot of second wave feminism personally. Though I totally didn't elaborate in my post, it's not the label I'm worried about so much as people shunning basic human rights. What I should have said is that I can't believe there are people out there that believe women are inferior.
DeleteAlso, thanks for your advice on transitioning to the real world. It really helps to hear from other people who've done it, it makes it seem less scary!
DeleteOh and lastly, haha:
DeleteIt's not so much that I think everyone should have the same opinions as me (which I have to admit, I totally do sometimes). What I meant in this particular post is just that I've surrounded myself with so many like-minded people that sometimes I forget that there are people out there who just aren't as into things like feminism as me.
"it's not the label I'm worried about so much as people shunning basic human rights." Totally get ya. I'm so used to things like being able to go to Planned Parenthood whenever I need to. It's really sobering to think of how many people are actively working to take that away. Thanks for clarifying!
DeleteThat skirt is just perfect, adore the large pockets and i'm a big fan of a midi skirt.
ReplyDeleteI remember when I moved from school to college, trust me it isn't as scary as you think it is going to be, time will fly by and as long as you put the work in, you won't need to worry about the universe throwing you a bone, things will happen.
Thanks so much for the encouragement. I'm trying to go with the flow! I always end up freaking out over the future, before anything ever has a chance to go wrong.
DeleteI don't know why all people don't identify as feminists either. As the comment above suggests, maybe it is that the label has been sucessfully stereotyped/trashed, which is lame indeed.
ReplyDeleteI think everyone graduating feels that way. You will do well. You already have your store, so you've already done some freelance work...
It's not that the label has been "trashed" (though that's part of it). It's that there are so many competing schools of feminism that the term doesn't have much of a central meaning anymore. It serves little purposes as a unifying label - does feminist mean TERF? Does it mean sex-positive? How about womanism? I'd rather just state my beliefs individually and make sure everyone is working on clearly defined terms.
DeleteThanks, Kristian, I appreciate it. I try and remember that I'm doing well with my little side-business already, I guess I'm just worried because I've never paid my own bills :/
DeleteThe transition can definitely be scary. My transition fears are just now coming into play...I am turning 30 this summer and only now am I starting to get a clearer picture on where I want to head. I was totally stressing myself out to the point of not sleeping well and even losing more hair than normal. Eventually I just decided I couldn't go on freaking out and have applied to get back into school. If that doesn't work out then i will just figure out a plan b. I have also realized that freaking out doesn't get me to my destination any quicker so it's best to just to enjoy the ride. :)
ReplyDeleteI love midi skirts. Tea-length is my favorite. I also enjoy the more minimalist look!
ReplyDeleteI feel like I could write a book about school/"real" life/etc, but I'm probably most qualified to give you a tip about freelancing: answer *so many* Craigslist ads, even if you don't think you're qualified. That's how I got my job. Also, don't be afraid of nepotism. You definitely know someone who knows someone who needs something designed.
I'm in the same boat as you; graduating in the summer and having to start thinking about how to 'make it' as an artist in the real world. It's really scary stuff! I'm expecting it to be really hard and probably a bit soul-destroying at first, and everyone keeps telling me how I'm going to struggle to provide for myself... But we've gotta at least give it a go! I would definitely rather try to follow my dreams and then fail, rather than give up straight away and do something 'safer'.
ReplyDeleteoh ya i actually completely know what you mean. i think it just becomes more apparent as you get older. i'm 27 now and i've say 3/4 of the women i was friends w/ in hs and even college i'm not friends w/ anyone because i find less and less commonalities (including my cringes at their lack of feminism). i actually deactivated my old facebook a few yrs ago when i studied for the GRE & then realized i was so much happier not keeping tabs on people who used to be a part of my life & made a new one w/ 30 friends now. not saying u should do that or anything, but it was helpful for me. i've found it a beautiful thing really, to stop holding on to what a friendship used to be and embrace how it wasn't there anymore. so i ramble too much on your blog, best wishes after graduation! i def remember that stress too. maybe you can get a PT job while you work on building freelance clients?
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